What’s up? It’s been quite a while… I’ve been ask a multiple times, by a friend, to speak about this huge topic that is highly unspoken of. At first I wasn’t so sure how to go about it, but I think I’ve found the right words to share with you guys.
When I think about „Soul ties and hardships“ I could relate it to plenty of things. Today however I specifically want to speak about it in terms of sex. If you’ve been raised in an African household, like me, you probably are aware that „sex“ is never to me mentioned nor even thought of. The one and only thing our parents tell us is that it is forbidden and not to be done until we’re married. I don’t have a problem the way my parents raised me, nevertheless what bothers me, is that they’ve never been able to explain to me „why“ sex belongs to a married couple. Of course, did they refer to the bible, but as a teenage guy you don’t really want to listen to that. Growing up I was never really able to speak about sex, despite the fact that school education wasn’t helping, a few „knowledgeable friends“ thought they knew it all; was the question „Are you a virgin“ from my pastor not helping me at all – sigh.
Well as I tried to figure things out myself, life did taught me a very valuable lesson:
„It’s all fun until you meet the crazy one“
I’m sure you can picture here what happened… No I didn’t get anyone pregnant (THANK YOU JESUS), but this experience did made me think twice and actually led me into giving my life to Christ. I remember it as if it happened yesterday, it was January 5th 2012, I was laying in bed and thought about what I’ve done. This experience was so awful that I decided to really stop playing games and to finally give in. I kept on running away and trying to have things go my way… it was all fun until I met that crazy one… & this was enough for me to say „Here I am Lord, please forgive me and do with me as you please!“ It’s a wonder that I’m still alive. I thought God would have struck me by now, but He didn’t.
In order for you to understand what I’m writing about the introduction was needed. So, now that you know where I’m coming from lets start…
Soul ties – A spiritual/emotional connection you have to someone after being intimate with them, usually engaging in sexual intercourse.
I know a lot of people don’t like to hear that, but this is the law of God & this is how he designed it. Sex is meant to be done in marriage between a man and a woman.
Let me take you a few steps backs, so that you can understand this…
God is a covenant God. A covenant is an agreement between two people. Understand that a covenant can only be done with giving a sacrifice. What God requires from that sacrifice is blood.
Covenants done in the Old Testament were different from now. You can see that with the story of Abraham in Genesis 17:9-11 „Then God said to Abraham, „As for you, you must keep my covenant, you and your descendants after you for the generations to come. This is my covenant with you and your descendants after you, the covenant you are to keep: Every male among you shall be circumcised. You are to undergo circumcision, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and you ..“
The significance about the circumcision was the blood that was spilled during the process and this is what God accepted. Another form of sacrifice God required, in the Old Testament, was the sacrificial blood of animals for any committed sin. There are plenty of examples I could give you, but we thank God for letting Christ go to the cross and take the penalty we were supposed to take. Through the blood of Jesus we don’t have to do this anymore and have access to God. This is our new covenant with God.
So we got that covered too, great…
The reason a couple supposed to be untouched (both being virgins) before marriage lays within significance of the covenant. Excurse: When the husband penetrates his wife and gets through the hymen tissue; the wife will feel some discomfort and bleeding could occur (that’s if the hymen tissue didn’t tear before hand). However, this process is acknowledge by God as the covenant between the two of you becoming one – (Gen. 2-24).
Ladies and gentlemen, a ring alone does not make the both of you husband and wife. The sexual intercourse is what seals the marriage before God.
The question now is… What happens when you have sex outside of marriage?
No, you’re not going to hell. The only way one will miss heaven is through denouncing Jesus Christ as his/her personal Lord and Savior; e.g. pride. But, just as anything else done outside of it’s norm are there consequences attached to it. Experiencing such consequences can be very troublesome to the soul. I’m speaking out of experience. What one must know is that the mentioned scripture above remains true, even today, it doesn’t matter who you sleep with. Once slept with somebody the two of you are automatically one.
What does it mean to be one?
Sexual intercourse, as fun as it is, doesn’t just exchange physical liquids and skin particles. But sex involves, the spirit, the mind and a persons emotions; this means having sex goes way deeper than it just happening physical. During the intercourse, the two of you exchange spiritual, emotional and mental traits too. If your partner has anger issues, daddy issues, bad sleeping habits, anxiety, depression etc. it is very likely for you to develop some, not all, but some of those traits.
Here comes the „scary part“, now picture yourself after sleeping with person A; continuing and now having sex with person B,C,D,E & F… you are now practically „married“ six times before God. Breaking it down – you’ve attached yourself to six different souls. Let that sink in…
So, one may ask what’s so bad about it!? Well… Everything! You guys didn’t just had a „great time“, you two practically shared parts of your life together; possibly forever. It’s normal to share experiences with other people. We also attach ourselves and detach ourselves through out seasons. After all to detach yourself from a persons soul isn’t easy at all.
How do I know if I’m entangled in a bad soul tie?
There are Godly soul ties don’t mistake this, but an ungodly soul tie is something you shouldn’t want to deal with. I think the easiest way to figure this question out is to simply check your records. If you’ve been sexually active then check how many it were/is. Another way to identify a soul tie is through having every now and then flashbacks. Flashbacks remind you on specific intimate moments you shared with someone. Those flashbacks happen in order to keep your mind and body occupied with sexual desires. There are also possibilities that you may find yourself unknowingly in moody seasons, which could result through the soul tie you’re connected to.
What do I do now? That’s the big question & I’m glad you asked that..
There are three things you need to do now. 1. Repent. 2. Repent & 3. Repent again.
- One is required to repent and acknowledge that they’ve sinned against God. When you read the story of Joseph you get to see his answer to Potiphar’s wife, who was trying to seduce him: „No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?” (Gen 39:9 – NIV). Notice here how he acknowledge that this would be a sin against God first.
- One must repent for the sake of him/herself – for they’ve sinned against their own body. „Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.“ (1. Corinthians 6:19-20 – NIV)
- Both need to repent because the both have sinned against each other.
In order to break this covenant and to be able to move on, the two of you need to come together in prayer, agreeing and pleading the blood of Jesus for it to break. „Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.“ (Matt. 18:19 – NIV)
It is not impossible for God to restore you and help you to break free from any ungodly soul tie. It’s up to you to want it though. I think I’ve written enough for now, I could have said so much more; but I’m sure this is all I’m supposed to write. I hope I didn’t scare you and could educate you enough. Many of us aren’t aware of this, so I’d encourage you to share this information with others too. I’m not trying to save anybody, Jesus did that already; neither am I trying to stop you all from having sex. I simply want to make you guys aware of its consequences because I’ve found myself wrapped in ungodly soul ties. I just don’t want you guys to continue the cycle or do repeat the same mistake.
With that being said.. Continue to stay in prayer and maintain what Christ has finished.
Thank you for reading until then, be blessed.